Flirting over text has a reputation for being awkward, and honestly — it often is. The problem is usually one of two things: trying too hard, or not being direct enough. Both read as uncertain, and uncertainty kills flirting.
The best flirty texts to send him are the ones that sound natural coming from you specifically — confident, a little playful, and direct without being heavy. You're not writing a script. You're finding a way to let him know you're thinking about him in a way that feels like *you*.
For your boyfriend
"Just so you know, I think about you more than I'll ever admit out loud. Consider this the written confession."
"I was going to text you something normal but honestly I just wanted you to know you're on my mind."
"Is it annoying that I still get excited when I see your name on my phone? Because that's where we are."
"I find you ridiculously attractive and I think it's only fair that you know."
"I have a completely reasonable and not at all embarrassing crush on you. Just wanted to put that out there."
For your crush
"I keep coming up with excuses to text you, which I think is a sign."
"You're the kind of person I find myself thinking about at completely random moments. Thought you should know."
"I'm not sure if this is flirting or just honesty but: I think you're really interesting and I'd like to talk to you more."
"Fair warning: I'm going to keep finding reasons to start conversations with you."
Playful and fun
"You have a very specific way of making me smile, and I just wanted to let you know it's working."
"I'm not great at playing it cool. You've probably figured that out. I don't mind."
"Every time I think I've figured out my favorite thing about you, you do something new."
"You're my favorite kind of distraction."
What makes flirty texts actually land
Confidence is the single most important ingredient. Not arrogance — just the willingness to say something a little vulnerable without immediately walking it back. When you say "I think you're attractive" and leave it there, that's confident. When you say "I think you're attractive... if that's weird just ignore this" — you've undercut the whole thing.
Specificity helps too. "I like you" is fine. "I like the way you argue about things you care about" is better. It shows you were paying attention.
Finally: don't overthink the response. Send the message, let it land, and get on with your day. The energy of someone who is comfortable enough to be a little flirtatious without making it a big deal is genuinely attractive.